I would like to own my own house with a partner someday. When we are gone (thru either moving spaces or death), I hope that the next occupants will feel the joy, the love, the pleasurable energy we spent there. My favourite quote from James Joyce is what I would hope is the legacy.
They lived
and laughed
and loved
and left.
Where two people before they came together
have individually come to understand
the value of selfishness to the degree
that they are willing to reach for the thought,
word or action, that connects them first
and foremost to core energy,
so that each partner is giving
the whole of themselves to the other,
in another words not just the physical
disconnected part but the part that is
the extension of the Source energy.So two people who come together who are fully connected,
that then join together, not on all topics,
but on some topics, where they are collectively co-creating.There is nothing more delicious than two Beings, coming together in their full expansive connection, and joining together in ideas of creating together. It is the ultimate co-creative experience.
Now we said that we qualify that a little bit:
Any two people who come together, whether they were connected to Source energy when they came together or not, still have the opportunity to get connected to Source energy, and so of course if two are consciously, deliberately connecting, and then having a relationship, that is the ideal experience … but if you can’t convince your mate about what you know, its not so serious, because one who connects to Source energy CAN FIND BALANCE with anyone else.Ideal is two connected,
who know they’re connected,
who know how they’re connected,
who know why they’re not connected,
who know how to get back into connection
to Source energy any time they want.The ideal marriage is one where each individual takes full responsibility of the way he or she feels, in another words where they are no longer using the other’s behavior as their excuse for not being connected.
It is what true unconditional love is. It is where you’re saying:
I take full responsibility for the way I feel,
and I will never hold you responsible,
no action that you ever offer
will be my excuse for not feeling good.
. . . let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
You split me, and tore my heart open.
You filled me with love.
You poured your spirit into mine.
Now I know you as I know myself.
“If you are happy and a relationship happens, you feel good, you share, but you are not dependent on it. You don’t become a slave, you don’t become addicted to it, because you can be happy without it.
A good relationship is a sharing; there is no dependence. Both partners remain totally free and independent. Nobody possesses – there is no need. It is a free gift… I have so much, so I give it to you. There is no need – I can be alone and perfectly happy.
When two persons are in love and both can be alone and happy, then tremendously beautiful love happens, because they are not hindering each other in any way in their growth. They remain completely free.”
Excerpt from the Osho book ‘Be Realistic Plan for a Miracle’
Freedom and love go together. Love is not a reaction. If I love you because you love me, that is mere trade, a thing to be bought in the market; it is not love. To love is not to ask anything in return, not even to feel that you are giving something- and it is only such love that can know freedom.
Love can never possess. Love is giving freedom to the other. Love is an unconditional gift, it is not a bargain.
Live in love. And if love continues, good; if it disappears, good. What is the harm in it? Anything that appears one day is bound to disappear one day; that’s how things are — the way of things, the natural way. Allow it.
Don’t cling, don’t be possessive. Live passionately while it is there, and when it is gone, it is gone. Feel grateful for all that it has done to you. Say goodbye. Don’t complain, don’t have any grudge.
~ Osho
Oh Beloved,
take me.
Liberate my soul.
Fill me with your love and
release me from the two worlds.
If I set my heart on anything but you
let fire burn me from inside.
Oh Beloved,
take away what I want.
Take away what I do.
Take away what I need.
Take away everything
that takes me from you.
~ Rumi
The key to love is understanding ….
The ability to comprehend not only the spoken word,
but those unspoken gestures,
the little things that say so much by themselves.
The key to love is forgiveness ….
to accept each others faults and pardon mistakes,
without forgetting, but with remembering
what you learn from them.
The key to love is sharing …
Facing your good fortunes as well as the bad, together;
both conquering problems, forever searching for ways
to intensify your happiness.
The key to love is giving …
with out thought of return,
but with the hope of just a simple smile,
and by giving in but never giving up.
The key to love is respect …
realizing that you are two separate people, with different ideas;
that you don’t belong to each other,
that you belong with each other, and share a mutual bond.
The key to love is inside us all …
It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients
that will take you to its threshold;
it is the continual learning process that demands a lot of work …
but the rewards are more than worth the effort …
and that is the Key to love.
Coup de plume 
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