Happy in a Relationship

“If you are happy and a relationship happens, you feel good, you share, but you are not dependent on it. You don’t become a slave, you don’t become addicted to it, because you can be happy without it.

A good relationship is a sharing; there is no dependence. Both partners remain totally free and independent. Nobody possesses – there is no need. It is a free gift… I have so much, so I give it to you. There is no need – I can be alone and perfectly happy.

When two persons are in love and both can be alone and happy, then tremendously beautiful love happens, because they are not hindering each other in any way in their growth. They remain completely free.”

Excerpt from the Osho book ‘Be Realistic Plan for a Miracle’

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Love Is . . .

Love can never possess. Love is giving freedom to the other. Love is an unconditional gift, it is not a bargain.

Osho

Sensualizing Me

Breaking my heart open increases my capacity for loving. It allows the full spectrum of feelings available to me due to a new-found increased sensitivity! It’s a gift that allows me to go deeper into self-exploration.

Our ability to FEEL in the heart infuses our ability to OPEN to more Shakti and pleasure everywhere else. We cannot have one without the other. Our capacity to ride the waves of our emotional life, deeply feeling and surrendering to what moves through our heart, is intimately connected with our experience of allowing waves of ecstasy, orgasm and sexual bliss to move through our body.

Lisa Schrader

 

Touch Me

by Freya Watson:

Our bodies are built for connection. Not just a casual hug or hand on the shoulder.

We’re built to thrive on love, and intimate touch is a natural physical manifestation of love. And by intimate touch I mean the kind that says “I’m right here, fully present with you, in this moment,” rather than intimacy which is just about genital contact. It’s an intimacy which can be shared with anyone we love, not just sexual partners. Studies have shown that the cells in our bodies expand when they feel love and contract when they feel its opposite, and our ability to use our touch to transmit that energy to another is an innate gift which we all carry.

Reawakening that ability for loving touch can be one of the simplest and most beautiful gifts to ourselves and our loved ones. At its most basic, just showing up and being willing to touch someone with the intention of bringing healing or love can be a comforting experience for another. And sometimes it’s as easy as that. We may shy away from placing soothing hands on an aching back or stroking a tense head, thinking drugs or a doctor are more efficient, or not wanting to spend the time. Surprisingly, though, it can be all that’s needed to shift a mood, lighten discomfort, or unlock a deeper emotional layer that’s ready to be cleared. More importantly, touch connects people and increases that sense of trust and love in the world in a way that doctors and drugs struggle to do.

In essence, reclaiming our ability to lovingly touch another — whether child, friend or lover—can be as straightforward as practicing the following four qualities. The more often we practice them, the deeper our touch can go.

A Poem by Abbie Graham

I open the door. The gorgeous guest

from afar sweeps in. In her hands are

her gifts — the gifts of hours and far-seeing

moments, the gift of mornings and evenings,

the gift of spring and summer, the gift

of autumn and winter. She must have searched

the heavens for boons so rare.