“Take some time and learn what words, acts, expressions, gifts, and physical touches are the most meaningful and desired by your partner.
In other words, show your appreciation and love to your partner in the ways that mean the most to them.
When you are in her presence, your little acts of kindness become extremely important.
For example, don’t give her flowers on Valentine’s Day because that is what you’re “supposed” to do … Give her flowers on a Wednesday because you thought of her on your way home from work.
Grab some blankets and pillows from the house and take her out on a hillside and watch the stars with her in the back of a pick up truck with the two of you looking into each others eyes and having in depth conversations under the moonlight.
Or get up at 8am and meet her at a local diner on a Saturday morning and talk about her life goals over some homemade pancakes.
Little things like this will always help your partner feel known, valued, and loved.
Take my advice and take care of her, because life doesn’t bless you with a good woman twice.”
Life is supposed to be fun — it is supposed to feel good! You are powerful creators, and you are right on schedule … Savor more; fix less. Laugh more; cry less. Anticipate positivity more; anticipate negatively less … Nothing is more important than that you feel good — just practice that and watch what happens.
It's been 4 years since we spoke
Or seen each other
Oh, how time flies . . .
You seem different now
Once you were cute and awkwardly nervous,
Younger and maybe a little bit insecure
Today you are handsome, calm,
Seemingly oh so sure
You are a bit different now
I look at your face and see
Astuteness written in the lines
Around your eyes and mouth
Your steel blue eyes penetrate me
When you address me, directly:
"Do you like what you see?"
Realizing you are now
Who I imagined you
Would grow up to be
I gasp at the realization and
Cast my gaze downward
To avoid you
Deeply probing me
You close the gap between us
I hear you sighing loudly
Your proximity commands me
To fix my view on your strong
Shoulders so closely on my cheek
Have you purposely trapped me
Against the hard wall I feel
Insistently pressing behind me?
You are intense now
You plant your lips firmly on mine
I now sigh loudly
Encouraged by that sound
You press me harder
Against the wall
How is your mouth
So damn heavenly?
You begin to go lower
Onto the softness of my neck
I turn my head sharply
Gasping from your fire
I melt into your kiss
You start to lick my skin
As you breathe into me, saying
"You are mine now"
To be continued . . .
I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times… In life after life, in age after age, forever. My spellbound heart has made and remade the necklace of songs, That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms, In life after life, in age after age, forever.
Whenever I hear old chronicles of love, its age-old pain,
Its ancient tale of being apart or together.
As I stare on and on into the past, in the end you emerge,
Clad in the light of a pole-star piercing the darkness of time:
You become an image of what is remembered forever.
You and I have floated here on the stream that brings from the fount.
At the heart of time, love of one for another.
We have played along side millions of lovers, shared in the same
Shy sweetness of meeting, the same distressful tears of farewell-
Old love but in shapes that renew and renew forever.
Today it is heaped at your feet, it has found its end in you The love of all man’s days both past and forever: Universal joy, universal sorrow, universal life. The memories of all loves merging with this one love of ours – And the songs of every poet past and forever.
I am not afraid to tell you, “I love you.” Your mind may say, “How can you love me when you don’t even know me?” I don’t need to know you. I don’t need to justify my love. I love you because this is my pleasure. Love coming out of me makes me happy, and it’s not important if you reject me because I don’t reject myself. In my story, I live in an ongoing romance, and everything is beautiful for me. To live in love is to be alive again. When you recover your integrity, you always follow love. You live your life as an eternal romance because when you love yourself, it is easy to love everyone else. You love so much that you don’t need anyone else’s love to make you happy.
I would like to own my own house with a partner someday. When we are gone (thru either moving spaces or death), I hope that the next occupants will feel the joy, the love, the pleasurable energy we spent there. My favourite quote from James Joyce is what I would hope is the legacy.
A big reason intimate relationships don’t last is because, while they may connect on a level of psychological familiarity, financial harmony, sexual chemistry, or intellectual alignment, they lack mutual fascination and emotional playfulness.
True love inspires us to be better people, uplifting each other. Without it, life becomes predictable and stagnant. When we allow ourselves to be playful and fascinated with life, we never stop growing and surprising each other. Our souls come out to dance, and we connect with our deepest, liveliest, raw passions and emotions.
When a partnership is engaged in this way, their experiences and quality of connection mutually amplify. They regularly become enthralled with each other and passion is regularly rekindled on all levels. If there is playfulness and fascination, there is emotional depth and intimacy.
When this happens, then there will always be love when the body becomes sick or old, when the sexuality fades, when the limerence is long gone. If there is mutual fascination and emotional playfulness, you will dance with the rapturous rhythm of life to the very last note.
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