Matt Helm’s She Trusts Me

She’s always wanted a secure man, a powerful man.

Her nervous system relaxes in my presence 

after years of being on high alert.

Constantly feeling unsafe and unseen,  she shapeshifts.

She’s been judged, manipulated, lied to, taught to please, 

and be what others want, especially men.

Enough of this.  

She’s beyond enough.  She’s powerful.  She is incredible.  She’s extraordinary.

She trusts me because I see her with these eyes, 

with the entirety of my beingness and I let her know in every way I know how to communicate it … that I see her.

She trusts me because I am an uncaged man in my power.

Freedom is my Essence.

I don’t react, I respond.

She trusts me because I invite her wild feminine essence out to play and I can hold it.

She trusts me because  I am genuinely curious about her, I have done my inner work.

She trusts me and extends her sacred invitation to hold her complete surrender.

Her exquisite surrender, a wealth beyond all wealth, to hold a women’s deep surrender.

Holding her grief, her longing, her sacred rage, her primal throbbing, and her dripping ecstasy.

Every women wants to go to her own truth, to let go completely into the flow of love

But not just with any man.

Sadly most women will never experience this level of trust and will never completely surrender.

To experience this level of trust and surrender requires a man to reclaim his essential nature, his powerful masculine essence.

She trusts me because I have made the sacred journey back to myself.

She trusts me because I have worked through my core wounding, 

because I have faced my deepest pain and reclaimed my true self.

She feels safe because I have spent thousands of hours in psychoanalysis, meditation, Yoga, with countless coaches, mystics, teachers, shamans, plant medicine, and mediums.

She feels safe with me because I know that at one point in my life I wasn’t safe to her or myself.

She feels safe with me because I don’t want to take from her, 

I want to give in sacred union.

She feels safe because she knows I’ve got her. 

I claim her heart.


Ideal Marriage


Where two people before they came together
have individually come to understand
the value of selfishness to the degree 
that they are willing to reach for the thought,
word or action, that connects them first
and foremost to core energy,
so that each partner is giving
the whole of themselves to the other,
in another words not just the physical
disconnected part but the part that is
the extension of the Source energy.

So two people who come together who are fully connected,
that then join together, not on all topics,
but on some topics, where they are collectively co-creating.

There is nothing more delicious than two Beings, coming together in their full expansive connection, and joining together in ideas of creating together. It is the ultimate co-creative experience.

Now we said that we qualify that a little bit:
Any two people who come together, whether they were connected to Source energy when they came together or not, still have the opportunity to get connected to Source energy, and so of course if two are consciously, deliberately connecting, and then having a relationship, that is the ideal experience … but if you can’t convince your mate about what you know, its not so serious, because one who connects to Source energy CAN FIND BALANCE with anyone else.

Ideal is two connected,
who know they’re connected,
who know how they’re connected,
who know why they’re not connected,
who know how to get back into connection
to Source energy any time they want.

The ideal marriage is one where each individual takes full responsibility of the way he or she feels, in another words where they are no longer using the other’s behavior as their excuse for not being connected.

It is what true unconditional love is. It is where you’re saying:
I take full responsibility for the way I feel, 
and I will never hold you responsible, 
no action that you ever offer 
will be my excuse for not feeling good.


My Fave Passage from Khalil Gibran

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. . . let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

Happy in a Relationship

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“If you are happy and a relationship happens, you feel good, you share, but you are not dependent on it. You don’t become a slave, you don’t become addicted to it, because you can be happy without it.

A good relationship is a sharing; there is no dependence. Both partners remain totally free and independent. Nobody possesses – there is no need. It is a free gift… I have so much, so I give it to you. There is no need – I can be alone and perfectly happy.

When two persons are in love and both can be alone and happy, then tremendously beautiful love happens, because they are not hindering each other in any way in their growth. They remain completely free.”

Excerpt from the Osho book ‘Be Realistic Plan for a Miracle’

Discover Love


Passage from chapter 6 of A Bird on the Wing by Osho:

Go on discovering love within you. And if you love, sooner or later the person will happen to you, because a loving heart, sooner or later, comes to a loving heart – it always happens. You will find the right person. But if you are jealous you will not find, if you are simply for sex you will not find, if you live only for security you will not find.

Love is a dangerous path and only those who have courage can travel it. And I say to you it is the same, just like meditation – only for those who are courageous. And there are only two ways to reach the divine: either meditation or love. Find out which is your way, which can be your destiny.

Reason, Season, Lifetime

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I love the poem below and refer to it often throughout the years. I believe everything we go through in life is about us getting opportunities to be our best, authentic selves. We have to be open and ready in order to appreciate the lesson because sometimes it’s hard to do that when you’ve recently been hurt. BTW, I will update this post when I find out who the correct author is. Thanks!

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed or just felt. They have come to assist you through a hard time, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. Then, suddenly, the person disappears from your life. Your need has been met; their work is done.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share or grow or give back. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They give you great joy. Believe it; it is real. But only for a season.

Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons — things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all your other relationships.

Think about the people in your life over the years. Whether they were there for a reason, a season or a lifetime, accept them and treasure them for however long they were meant to be part of your life.

And when they are gone, be thankful for the gifts you received from them when they were here — for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Love Treatise

by Prem Rawat Maharaji:

You have within you more love than you could ever understand. There is a place within each of us which is brimming over with love. There is so much that if we take the water of all oceans on one side and this love on the other, the ocean will fall short.


Sow the seed of love and you will be rewarded with the most incredible feeling of love dancing in your heart. When a human being is in love there is a fullness inside. When a human being is content because they have felt the peace within them, it surpasses all reasoned descriptions of heaven. It dances on a person’s face, and it’s unmistakable, it transcends the barriers of language, the barriers of culture. Within you is all the love you ever feel. This is the love of all loves. Real love, the mind cannot feel. Real love can only be felt by the heart, never for a second to be separated from you. Wherever you go, this love comes with you. A love that is impartial does not look at age, does not look at habits, never a word of unkindness, never an inflection of disapproval. No judgment. Not even for the blink of an eye. Good, bad, dressed, undressed; beautiful, ugly — all left behind. This is true love. Love not only makes the one who feels it feel good, but all those who are around also begin to feel it. If you only know how to receive love but not how to give it, you cannot love. If you only know how to give love but not how to receive it, you cannot love. You have to know both. When you do, you will know what love is all about.

Love is what is important. Love is what brings us together. Love is not about lamenting. Love is not about looking at the past — wondering how it could have been and how it wasn’t. Love is not about the things that are not. Love is about what it is, what is felt in the heart in this moment. You love Love. It’s a beautiful thing. This is who you are. And if you are going to love, then love the most lovable. Love the one who can love you back unconditionally, no strings attached ~ the ultimate lover who dwells in the stillness of your heart.

Fall in love for life. There is a love inside of you that’s never going to fall apart. It’s the most beautiful companion, its always there. Accept the moment called now and fall in love with your breath, because it is the most incredible instrument that is playing. It brings you your life, it brings you your possibility, it brings you the truest blessing- and it brings you Love.

Your Partner IS Your Guru


by Sondra Ray

All kinds of different relationships are going on in the universe and they are healing, and one form is no better than another. The main thing is to get clear on is your relationship with the universe. When that one is working, all the others will, no matter what form you are in or not in.

In life we experience a continuous push toward to egoless-ness. A being has an intense desire to know its real self, to know the truth, the Eternal Source. Our over-riding desire is to discover this source of infinite love and to express this love in daily life.

The purpose of a relationship is to enhance these goals. Both partners must share this intention or they are missing the boat and they will have to keep dying and reincarnating until they get it!

A partner will bring up all your patterns. The truth is that your partner is your guru. Because they help you to get healed, you should always be thankful to them for serving you.

Each must understand that the most profound reason they are together is for the evolution of their souls. This creates a whole new vibration between the couple. There is a commitment to assist each others spiritual growth, and not one that is ruled by the ego.

A relationship should be about growth and movement. It should create a holy, interpersonal environment for the evolution of two souls. A relationship is a process; in that process, the couple should celebrate changes in themselves which are stimulated by one another. They should not resent the fact that the mate (the relationship) is encouraging them to change. Each should want the other to become all that he or she can be, and should not feel threatened by this desire. In other words, you should not hold yourself back in any way, nor should you allow the other to hold you back. Each should enjoy empowering the other, but neither should give away their power.

Relationship between two immortalists (enlightened couple) is eternal, immediately, and although the form of the relationship may change, many times, leaving is no longer an issue. There is abundance of joy, happiness, and outright bliss. There is a natural telepathy that occurs when the two are apart. Two together provide miraculous energy. They support each others’ continuing aliveness always; and this makes it safe to surrender totally. It is like a dream come true.

Partners are together for the evolution of their souls; they recognise their equality. They move toward “authentic empowerment” as opposed to the old archetype which reflects power as external. An authentically powerful person is humble and harmless, treasures life, forgives, takes responsibility, and sees perfection in everything.