Learn Her by Cody Bret

“Take some time and learn what words, acts, expressions, gifts, and physical touches are the most meaningful and desired by your partner.

In other words, show your appreciation and love to your partner in the ways that mean the most to them. 

When you are in her presence, your little acts of kindness become extremely important.

For example, don’t give her flowers on Valentine’s Day because that is what you’re “supposed” to do … Give her flowers on a Wednesday because you thought of her on your way home from work.

Grab some blankets and pillows from the house and take her out on a hillside and watch the stars with her in the back of a pick up truck with the two of you looking into each others eyes and having in depth conversations under the moonlight. 

Or get up at 8am and meet her at a local diner on a Saturday morning and talk about her life goals over some homemade pancakes.

Little things like this will always help your partner feel known, valued, and loved.

Take my advice and take care of her, because life doesn’t bless you with a good woman twice.”

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Practice What Feels Good

Life is supposed to be fun — it is supposed to feel good! You are powerful creators, and you are right on schedule … Savor more; fix less. Laugh more; cry less. Anticipate positivity more; anticipate negatively less … Nothing is more important than that you feel good — just practice that and watch what happens.

Abraham-Hicks

Unending Love

My favourite love poem by Rabindranath Tagore:

I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times…
In life after life, in age after age, forever.
My spellbound heart has made and remade the necklace of songs,
That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms,
In life after life, in age after age, forever.

Whenever I hear old chronicles of love, its age-old pain,
Its ancient tale of being apart or together.
As I stare on and on into the past, in the end you emerge,
Clad in the light of a pole-star piercing the darkness of time:
You become an image of what is remembered forever.

You and I have floated here on the stream that brings from the fount.
At the heart of time, love of one for another.
We have played along side millions of lovers, shared in the same
Shy sweetness of meeting, the same distressful tears of farewell-
Old love but in shapes that renew and renew forever.

Today it is heaped at your feet, it has found its end in you
The love of all man’s days both past and forever:
Universal joy, universal sorrow, universal life.
The memories of all loves merging with this one love of ours –
And the songs of every poet past and forever.

Mon cœur s’ouvre à ta voix

We haven’t met,

at least, not yet.

You have sent

Me

pictures via WhatsApp . . .

How do I know, you’re who

you say you are?

How do I REALLY know, you’re you?

We have only

spoken on the phone.

And yet . . .

All I know is,

right now,

I LOVE YOU.

Bliss and Spirit

“Spirituality is not religion. It is a path for us to generate happiness, understanding, and love, so we can live deeply each moment of our life. Having a spiritual dimension in our lives does not mean escaping life or dwelling in a place of bliss outside this world but discovering ways to handle life’s difficulties and generate peace, joy, and happiness right where we are, on this beautiful planet.”

Thich Nhat Hanh

Love in You

“The love that you search for everywhere is already present within you. It may be evoked by any number of people or events. A mountain can evoke this love. A sunset can evoke this love. But finally, you must realize you are this love. The source of all love is within you.”
Gangaji

You have love; you are love. You do not need to find it outside of yourself. Remember this, specially when times are tough. I love you. Thank you.

Someday

I would like to own my own house with a partner someday. When we are gone (thru either moving spaces or death), I hope that the next occupants will feel the joy, the love, the pleasurable energy we spent there. My favourite quote from James Joyce is what I would hope is the legacy.

They lived

and laughed

and loved

and left.

~ James Joyce

Humberto Braga on Relationships

A big reason intimate relationships don’t last is because, while they may connect on a level of psychological familiarity, financial harmony, sexual chemistry, or intellectual alignment, they lack mutual fascination and emotional playfulness.

True love inspires us to be better people, uplifting each other. Without it, life becomes predictable and stagnant. When we allow ourselves to be playful and fascinated with life, we never stop growing and surprising each other. Our souls come out to dance, and we connect with our deepest, liveliest, raw passions and emotions.

When a partnership is engaged in this way, their experiences and quality of connection mutually amplify. They regularly become enthralled with each other and passion is regularly rekindled on all levels. If there is playfulness and fascination, there is emotional depth and intimacy.

When this happens, then there will always be love when the body becomes sick or old, when the sexuality fades, when the limerence is long gone. If there is mutual fascination and emotional playfulness, you will dance with the rapturous rhythm of life to the very last note.

Freedom and Flying

by Erin Hanson:

There is freedom waiting for you,
On the breezes of the sky,
And you ask, “What if I fall?”
Oh, but my darling,
What if you fly?

Ideal Marriage

Where two people before they came together
have individually come to understand
the value of selfishness to the degree 
that they are willing to reach for the thought,
word or action, that connects them first
and foremost to core energy,
so that each partner is giving
the whole of themselves to the other,
in another words not just the physical
disconnected part but the part that is
the extension of the Source energy.

So two people who come together who are fully connected,
that then join together, not on all topics,
but on some topics, where they are collectively co-creating.

There is nothing more delicious than two Beings, coming together in their full expansive connection, and joining together in ideas of creating together. It is the ultimate co-creative experience.

Now we said that we qualify that a little bit:
Any two people who come together, whether they were connected to Source energy when they came together or not, still have the opportunity to get connected to Source energy, and so of course if two are consciously, deliberately connecting, and then having a relationship, that is the ideal experience … but if you can’t convince your mate about what you know, its not so serious, because one who connects to Source energy CAN FIND BALANCE with anyone else.

Ideal is two connected,
who know they’re connected,
who know how they’re connected,
who know why they’re not connected,
who know how to get back into connection
to Source energy any time they want.

The ideal marriage is one where each individual takes full responsibility of the way he or she feels, in another words where they are no longer using the other’s behavior as their excuse for not being connected.

It is what true unconditional love is. It is where you’re saying:
I take full responsibility for the way I feel, 
and I will never hold you responsible, 
no action that you ever offer 
will be my excuse for not feeling good.

Abraham-Hicks